Dealing With Alcohol and Drug Addictions

By Marie Allred - August 17, 2018




In life, there are right ways and wrong ways to deal with problems. For example, when dealing with a mugger, throwing bacon at them is considered a "wrong" way. So here I’ve got some of the right ways for dealing with Alcohol and Drug Addictions.
In my teenage years, one of my best friends' older sister, Sara, struggled very badly with a cocaine addiction, in addition to being an alcoholic. Her life was like a soap opera because of it, leading her to marry a drug-addicted and abusive man and be unable to take care of her young children. There were many times when my friend found herself entrusted by a sober Sara to hide the cocaine from her in the future. Needless to say, my adolescence was full of examples of ways that drug and alcohol addictions were mishandled, and I'd like to share a few of those ways with you now, as well as the solutions that would have been the better way to handle them.
1. Bailing them out of trouble
When we were young, my friend's parents consistently babied Sara about the addiction, and because they had money they were endlessly bailing Sara out when she got herself into trouble. If you find yourself or someone else perpetually bailing out a loved one with an addiction, this is not a productive way to deal with the issue. You don't have to allow them to fall into a pit of despair or become criminals or anything, but you do need to get them to understand that their actions have consequences and that they need professional help with their addictions.
2. Making them feel embarrassed or ashamed
Sara was often ridiculed and some of her brothers and sisters really tore into her about her addiction and made her feel extremely embarrassed and unwanted. One of the worst things you can do for someone with an alcohol or drug addiction is make them feel worthless, embarrassed, ashamed and unwanted. Those feelings are often what caused the person to make the initial jump into taking drugs and alcohol and making them believe they were right to have those feelings only shoves them deeper into the rut, and contrary to the opinion of some, does not "embarrass them into snapping out of their addiction." Instead, the best course of action is to uplift and love them - do not condone their actions or addictions, but let them know that you are there and are willing to do whatever it takes to help them through their hard times.
3. Not being afraid to get authorities involved if the situation becomes emergent
Sara's addiction led her down some difficult paths in her adolescence and young adulthood. She eventually married a man who beat and abused her, was an addict himself, and it became painfully clear that neither she nor her husband could take care of the three young children that they had together. At this point in Sara's life, her loved ones should have contacted professionals including the police or at least Child Protective Services. Because her family did not contact anyone, they allowed both Sara and her children to continue to suffer abuse and severe neglect much longer than they should have had to. The situation should have been handled by the family not being too afraid to call authority figures or professionals into action when they knew something was so wrong.
To talk more about this, or anything else, please contact me. Thanks.

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